Why Do We Drink Alcohol?

Seriously, though…

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I don’t know who needs to hear this, but:

I don’t drink alcohol.

Connecting more deeply

I think it’s pretty commonly known that alcohol can bring down people’s defences and can provide a space for authentic relating. When inhibitions are low, so are your filters for expression, and your truth is more readily accessible.

Medicating the pain

For as long as I can remember, I’ve never been great friends with alcohol. I never felt called to sneak it before I was of legal age, I never felt a strong affinity for it (except for that one year in university), and I’ve never really used it as a medication in times of immense heartbreak or stress. I noticed my desire to numb and dissociate — and sure, sometimes distance from your pain can help you chew it off more easily, bite by bite. But I grew to love learning how to process my emotions, and approach my problems head-on. Numbing with alcohol just felt like robbing myself of building the skills to face my problems.

Alcohol and self love

My parents did a beautiful job with me regarding alcohol. When the topic first came up in our household, my parents were relaxed. They saw me run every day, play sports, and prioritize my health. They said something to the effect of,

What’s your mission in life?

Bigger than personal health, alcohol has never really forwarded what I care about in life, in the bigger picture. I care about being a damn good coach, transforming lives, healing relationships, and profound connection and intimacy with the people in my life. I also care about showing up to each of these callings feeling fully capable, present, and vital. Alcohol has never given me any of those things — but it did occasionally give me confidence. Which brings me to my next point…


I always saw alcohol as something that represented a level of freedom of expression that I wanted to access while sober, and drinking to access that way of being never taught me much. Learning to be that way of being, just because, was much richer and sweeter. This included confidence; why would I drink to feel confident rather than learn how to feel confident while sober? This inquiry actually assisted me in becoming a Transformational Coach. I wanted to guide people along their journey to authentic confidence and personal freedom, which led me further to relationship coaching, and showing people how to create relationships from being their most authentic, powerful selves.

Celebrating with alcohol

I also never really understood why people celebrate with alcohol. Why champagne, instead of a raw juice or something? I’d rather say cheers with a longevity tonic than with something that makes me nauseated. Does this not make sense?!

What’s possible

I’m not saying that, for the rest of my life, I will never, EVER drink alcohol again. Because I honestly don’t know. But I do know that for most of the time, and for the foreseeable future, I haven’t been and won’t be consuming alcohol. And I love it that way.

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